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Friday, September 5, 2008

Attention horny men!

Please. I beg of you to listen.

If you're planning on attending a spanking or scene party in the near future, can you do the women a favor and please stop with the leering, drooling, and stalker-like behavior at parties?

A compliment is one thing and is always appreciated. Gawking at the same woman and telling her over and over and over how lovely she looks gets creepy.

Rubbing after a spanking is usually fine. Offering to rub someone after she's just
played with someone else is very strange. Commenting on a girl's butt, and pointing out the unique characteristics of said butt, is beyond disturbing.

Needless to say, TOUCHING a butt without asking (I heard a rumor this happened to someone at SL this weekend) is completely against not only the rules but all sense of decorum.

Being shy is one thing. Sitting at a table alone, not talking to anyone, and
staring at other people -- sometimes with what looks like a glare on your face -- is
scary.

I want to meet people. I want to play with people. I want new adventures. At this party, as at most SL parties, I met and played with brand-new people that I had not even networked with prior to the party. These were guys who came to the party as singles. See, you don't necessarily have to be on any "list" or be well-known in order to play. You really only have to behave yourself and be NICE.

As I've said before, I try to be a decent, giving, friendly person, but I'm not the Mother Theresa of spanking, nor am I a social worker. Eve and Tony aren't social workers, either. Please, learn to talk to people. Learn to socialize, with men as well as women. And knock off the touching, leering, glaring, and ultimately, pouting. People are starting to talk...

8 comments:

Radagast said...

Some people are lost - truly lost. They seem to have no clue that they are behaving a certain way even when it's pointed out to them. The unfortunate thing is that their lack of manners affects those around them and makes their party experience less than optimal.

Anonymous said...

I wish they knew their behavior is the focus of much talk and ridicule on their behalf. Maybe ridicule is a bad choice of word. Negative attention maybe.

Then if they would actually READ blogs and not just look at the pretty pictures, they may get a clue.

Wish there would be a mentor/buddy that shadows them and points out every instance that they engage in creep out behavior. Oh well.

Laura T

Ms. Cassandra (Sandy) Park said...

they make me ill. I've got to get a strategy to say something next time. But do it on the FIRST night of the party so they understand. "Hey! Do you know how rude you just were?" But do you know what I think will happen? The guy will do that hand motion thing like, "Whoa, whoa, don't get so excited, little lady!" I was thinking about this the day I had to go back to work, sitting next to some spread-legged asshole. He managed to make a little room for me on the seat next to him, but god forbid a man CLOSE his f***ing legs once in a while. That wouldn't be MANLY, I guess.

Okay, not sure why I'm ranting about this, but I think somehow it's related. Some guys carry this attitude of entitlement with them.

Anonymous said...

At the gym today I was doing a squat position and rotator exercises with a band. A guy went and squatted behind a bench that was behind ME. How could I tell? There was a MIRROR and I could see him just squatting there behind me, staring.

I just ignored him and did my stuff. He followed to work on another machine near me and my workout partner.

This is why I prefer to work out in the women's gym (a separate room for women only, partly due to the muslim women who can't workout with men).

Sigh.

-Dolly

Wednesday said...

Amen sister! *Sigh*

Hey, I *do* work in the social work field and I don't wanna deal with this junk at a party. Sheesh! Yeah, some people are lost. It is called "poor insight." For the worst cases pointing it out would not help much--they would just deflect it elsewhere and go on to truly believe that they are the victim in the situation.

Ms. Cassandra (Sandy) Park said...

Dolly: Ugh, that's gross. Maybe next time, put in a complaint.

Wednesday: Yeah, and you probably don't want to deal with it in the they way they'd LIKE you to deal with it either, right?

Wednesday said...

Nope. Though I am thinking of pulling out a few annoying social work tricks next party that might ultimately make them want to avoid me. I need to noodle over what I might want to say.

LauraT said...

Ohh...

Mindgames! How fun!