On birthdays, bratting and play

My birthday was nice but low-key. Rad took me out to a Cajun place in our neighborhood, Bourbon Street, where I indulged in catfish prepared with a caramelized onion topping and fried spinach on top of that – quite interesting and yummy; but way too much food, and I took more than half home with me. He bought me dark, dark chocolate for dessert ... we split it later. Mmmm.

Saturday night we went to Paddles to hear a presentation by Jules of Strictly Spanking New York (SSNY). She led a panel on “Having fun in the scene,” and it covered LOTS of hot topics including “appropriate” vs. “inappropriate” bratting (one can make a good argument in favor of bratting as a means to facilitate play OR to tell a top that he can go harder without actually using the words -– which many bottoms are loathe to do); “appropriate” vs. “inappropriate” touching -- and what to do when inappropriate touching happens; communication between a top and a bottom to figure out compatibility; how to stop a scene when it's not going well; and several other things. It was a lively discussion with lots of questions and feedback from the audience. Oh, yes, they also insisted on me coming up on stage to get a birthday spanking. I protested vehemently!

Rad gave me a hot birthday strapping later, with me lying down across the padded bed in the side room. There was a cute girl tied up nearby and her top was apparently doing nasty evil things to her, so she was making more noise than me. But occasionally I let out a howl when Rad got me with the nastier of the two straps.

I also got a firm spanking from my friend Gary, who's always fun. He just had to pull out that nasty bath brush. Brr. I hate that thing! But he was nice and only gave me a few.

I did not get to cane J. because he was with a friend and they had to leave early. But I did top another friend, H., who can also take a good caning – and he asked me for it, which is even better.

Heads' up – over the last week I've been getting my new professional website ready. It is about to go live; I have a few minor things to adjust and as soon as they are done I'll post the link here.